What defines you?

What defines YOU?

What defines YOU as a person?

No, I'm serious, think about it for a minute.

Are you defined by your job, your status, or your lifestyle choices?

Is it your wealth or how much money you have saved up?

or is it something materialistic like how many luxury items you own?

or something aesthetic, like your weight, super curvy butt, long lean legs, or full lips?

or even your health and sexuality?

Is it the people around you, like your family, parents, boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse or friends?

or most commonly, does your past define who you are?

The people around you does not define who you are. Do you really need their affirmation or approval? Do you have to look to others for identity and a sense of belonging?

Because every time you look to others for approval, you miss the chance to define yourself. You start losing who you are and never get the chance to feel complete.

Your past does not define you. Mistakes, regrets and bad experiences do make up our past.

I, for one, has made mistakes and bad choices in many aspects of my life. I have harboured deep regrets for my actions and my words that have hurt others.

I have let my past defined who I am, and that has in turn determined my future, as I chose not to step out of that history. 

To be honest, this is an area where I struggled the most. I tend to blame myself for my actions but I have learned that my past does not define who I am. So don't let your past define you either. I know nothing can change what happened in your past or the pain you endured in your upbringing.

So what exactly defines YOU?

It's how you NOT let your past and history, and the people around you define you. When you choose to do something and step out of your past no matter who and no matter how the past has been, and not let it define how YOU live your life, that is how YOU are defined.

When you let go of any anger or resentment of how your life turned out, and choose to not give up, that is how YOU are defined.

When you accept your past and create new experiences for your future, that is how YOU are defined.

When you accept that not everyone is going to support you and you realize that you don't really need their approval, that is how YOU are defined.

Remember, you are the only person that can define who you truly are.