Dear 16 year old Michelle,
Hi there! There are a lot of things I want to tell you. I know you are feeling a little lost and sad right now being in a new school in Australia. You feel that you can't fit in, but its okay, as it will get better. I know you are being rebellious right now with Mum, but she is only looking out for you. So trust her as she has way more life experience than you. Some years down the line, you will really need her when you go through major life changes. Mum will also go through some heartbreak and difficulties, and during that time, please do be there for her and strive to put her feelings before yours. As for Gene, he will stay the same in the next few years. He will be all about the computer games, like any other boys his age. He will do very well in his studies though, especially during his VCE. He is a smart boy, so you don't have to worry about him. Also, tell Mum not to worry about him so much as you know how over-protective she can be.
I know you wonder about relationships and you are starting to notice boys. Don't you worry, you will go through many relationships and like most girls, you will make classic epic mistakes of being overly jealous, being clingy and needy and what not. My girl, you are still young and you still don't know what you want. You will go from relationships to another relationships before you learn from your mistakes. Half the time in these relationships, you will feel lonely and single. There is nothing wrong with walking away from a relationship that doesn't make you happy, rather than staying in it. Remember, its better to be single than be in a bad relationship. And, I know you really want to know about sex. My advise is to wait! Wait for as long as you meet the right guy because it will be all worth it. You probably feel scared and worried about love, relationship and sex. It's normal and reasonable to be scared but when the time is right, it would not be a big deal, trust me. Don't let peer pressure get to you either. There is nothing wrong with waiting because you are definitely worth it.
You will also meet new interesting people, gain new friends, and even lose old friends. You will meet people that will look down on you and overlook you. You will meet and read about people that inspire you. You will meet people that teach you lessons, and these people will bring out the best in you. You will even meet people who are really attracted to you. Don't fret about your looks. You are already beautiful. You may not think so now, but every year, you are going to feel more confident and show a lot more of your true self. Also, work on your inner beauty, personality ad character, as it will serve to be even more important than your outer beauty.
VCE will be a stressful time for you but you will get through it. Study hard and enjoy yourself at uni. Choosing a career will be tricky for you. Sometimes, your goals will change and the career you thought you liked may not be what you want. But it will be exciting for you and take every opportunity that presents itself because not many people are as lucky as you. You will meet amazing friends at uni who will be like a brother or sister to you. They will all be different but that's the best part. By surrounding yourself with different people from different backgrounds, you learn from them and it will bring out the best in you.They will accept you as you are and be there for you. So don't change who you are to fit in with certain people, you yourself is enough. Don't push people that are important to you away, just because of stressful circumstances. When you get upset and scared in a situation, and your first instinct is to walk away and deal with the problems later, don't. It will make the problem worst later on.
I will be lying if I tell you that your life will be perfect. It won't be easy and the next few years ahead will be filled with ups and downs. You will go through many changes in life and experience an array of emotions, but when you think it doesn't get better, it will. So my dear girl, lead a messy life and make countless mistakes. Go through ups and downs with a smile and thank everyday for the life you will lead and the people that you have.
Sincerely,
Michelle
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