Falling in love; and finding the one

Many of us dreams of finding someone, falling in love and living happily ever after. It embodies the likelihood of how successful and happy you will be in life. The phrase “behind every great man, there’s a great woman” explains that for every success that you achieved in life, it would be through the support and encouragement of your spouse or partner in life. To have that special someone, be it man or woman, gay or straight, sharing your life and dreams, and being your biggest support in helping you achieve your goals/dreams is our society’s epitome of finding happiness.

The notion of falling for someone or even finding the one is scary for some or even absolutely absurd for the skeptics or non believers. The thought of finding the elusive “one”, you know, the one you can’t imagine life without, the one who makes you happy, the one you can imagine growing old with, the one you want to marry, the one you want to have children with, may seem unattainable for a lot of people. One lesson I’ve learnt from watching How I Met Your Mother, is that it takes a lot of patience and to never lose hope. For the main character Ted Mosby, it was worth the wait (9 seasons to be exact). What I’m trying to say is that we should try to be Ted Mosby once in a while; date around, get your heart broken, make mistakes, be crazy, discover yourself, follow your dreams, and not wait around for the person to pop up into your life. As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.

So after a lot of waiting, you met someone. He or she seemed nice which is great. Casual dates turned into romantic nights, which lead to weekend getaways and before you know it, you realized you are falling in love with them and you cannot imagine life without him or her. So now you wonder, what’s the next step? Is it time for a serious commitment like moving in, engagement or marriage? This begs the question, how do you know you found the one? For many, it could be a specific moment, a feeling or an action of your significant other that reinforces you like a lightbulb going off in your head. During that time, it feels right. When you know, you just know. Taking the next step is no longer scary or uncertain anymore, and you can look towards a future with them without any fear. Suddenly, the amazing connection you share with them and the life you have created together makes perfect sense.

Despite the skeptics, finding the one is possible. Life is beautiful when you are busy enjoying it by yourself, but having that special person in your life makes life more beautiful. So when you come across someone in your life that makes you happy, that makes you stronger, wiser and a better person, that wants the best for you, that is there for you always, don’t question if they are the one.

Because if they are the one, you will just know.